30 Things I’ve Learned From Being Single In My 30s

Life lessons I wish I knew in my 20s

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When I was a little girl, all I wanted was to marry someone. Anyone. My mum would tell me, “Ifeanyi, you’ll get married someday. You need to be ready when that time comes”. I would stare at her with dreamy eyes, smiling. But now I’m in my 30s, not so much.

Being single can feel like a curse or a blessing. Whichever option you choose, that’s cool.

I’ve learned a few things from being single.

1. Being single is not as bad as people make it sound.
2. The more you focus on being single, the more desperate you seem to potential suitors. Focus instead on your calling and your gifts.
3. Stay close to family and friends no matter how much they remind you of how single you are.
4. The older you get, the more cynical you become. Fight your need to be cynical. Stay young. Stay alive. Never grow old.
5. You only have one face. Wash your face every evening. Never get to the point where people say, “she used to be pretty”.
6. Guys come and go but you stay. Love yourself. Be true to yourself. Don’t hurt yourself.
7. Never compromise on your standards. If you don’t want to have sex with someone, say it…